Life Lately
Obligatory Times Square photo The Whitney at sunset was 😍😍 A lovely day exploring Little Island, Chelsea Market, and the Highline. India’s travel outfit yesterday was fashion goals but also probably could have gotten her access to work with the flight maintenance crew. After a lot of pivoting, stressing, and hand-wringing, we arrived in New York just in time for a Christmas dinner of takeout pizza. This long-planned trip, along with a number of broadway play tickets, was . . .
The Forgiveness Protocol: How to Apologize When You Have Hurt or Harmed Another
Note: I discovered this forgiveness protocol from an online comment from Kaitlin Curtice. I think it’s a really good process for working through apologies and making amends when we’ve harmed others. The author has made it public domain and asked people to share it widely, so I’m posting it here in the hopes it helps you as well. The Forgiveness Protocol by Judith Eve Lipton M.D. for Psychology Today Say you are sorry. Make an inventory of how your behavior might have hurt or harmed . . .
A note about your divorced friends this holiday season.
A note about your divorced friends this holiday season. It's possible it sucks for them. It's possible they are having to swallow down tears because they have to spend their holidays with a toxic person in order to allow their kids to have both parents present for their celebrations. OR,, it's possible they don't get their kids on Christmas eve, or Christmas morning, and they spend that time sitting in the grief of not having their children with them. It's possible they aren't invited . . .
Christmas and the heavyness of being without a church
photo by David Trotter I went to a Christmas Eve service with my kids and ex-husband today. It’s been a while since I’ve been to a Christmas Eve service, for a variety of reasons, least of which is the fact that Mark and I try to spend that day together for the kids and there is nothing more awkward than going to church where that act of walking in the door together springs into action a number of people excited to pastor us back into marriage, rather than accepting us as we are - a . . .
10 Lessons I Learned From Divorce
Going through a divorce has been the single most difficult transition in my life. It’s not a path I ever wanted to walk and the effects have been far-reaching, from my finances to my social life to my physical health. However, as is true with many trials, it has also been a season of growth . . . of reshaping and learning, and re-evaluating my own identity. Here are ten of the biggest life lessons I’ve gleaned in the past few years. You have more strength than you think I never knew how . . .
Finding my footing after divorce
Over the past three months I went through the process of sitting for my licensing exams to be a marriage and family therapist. You may be thinking . . . wasn’t she already licensed? Yes, I was. I was in private practice for over a decade, before I had kids, and before I started a blog. I loved being in private practice. I liked my colleagues, I liked that the job was challenging and cerebral, and I loved that I could set my own hours and work part-time for a decent wage. One of the things . . .
What To Do When He’s an Alcoholic and I Love Him
What I Want You to Know is a series of reader submissions. It is an attempt to allow people to tell their personal stories, in the hopes of bringing greater compassion to the unique issues each of us face. If you would like to submit a story to this series, click here. Today’s guest post is by Anonymous Photo by: Kaley Dykstra My husband has a problem with alcohol. He knows that he does. He knows that his alcohol problem breaks my heart, and that I want him to stop. He knows that . . .
