This Is My Body, Sacred And Scarred | Five Kids Is A Lot Of Kids

When I see myself in the mirror now, I think, almost always, “This is my body, broken for you, kids.” Which isn’t sacrilegious. Or self-deprecating. Or disdainful. Or sad. Not now. Not anymore. No. Because the broken body points always toward life. Always toward triumph. Always toward resurrection. It just took me a while to find the sacred in the scars

Facebook Slacktivism – False Sense Of Help | HowToBeaDad

Don’t put a bumper sticker on your car. Donate your car. Don’t share a Facebook photo to help end hunger. Share a meal or your time volunteering. The digital world is still no substitute for real life though Facebook might disagree. Facebook slacktivism is not the same as activism and volunteering. It is a means not an end.

Picture Of Jesus – Ben Harper & The Blind Boys of Alabama, live at The Apollo Theater Of Harlem, 2004

Save Our Inboxes! Adopt The Email Charter.

Short or Slow is not Rude: Let’s mutually agree to cut each other some slack. Given the email load we’re all facing, it’s OK if replies take a while coming and if they don’t give detailed responses to all your questions. No one wants to come over as brusque, so please don’t take it personally. We just want our lives back!

How To Raise A Kid Who Isn’t Whiny And Annoying | Lyz Lenz

Mommy wars? You know who has mommy wars? Women with enough time and disposable income to bemoan the fact that others are “judging” them for how they feed their kids? Pinterest stress? That’s what you get when you need a problem.

6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal | Mark Manson

Blaming our partners for our emotions is a subtle form of selfishness, and a classic example of the poor maintenance of personal boundaries. When you set a precedent that your partner is responsible for how you feel at all times (and vice-versa), then will develop codependent tendencies. Suddenly, they’re not allowed to plan activities without checking with you first. All activities at home — even the mundane such as reading books or watching TV — must be negotiated and compromised. When someone begins to get upset, all personal desires go out the window because it is now your responsibility to make one another feel better. The biggest problem of developing these codependent tendencies is that they breed resentment. Sure, if my girlfriend gets mad at me once because she’s had a shitty day and is frustrated and needs attention, that’s understandable. But if it becomes an expectation that my life revolves around her emotional well-being at all times, then I’m soon going to become very bitter and even manipulative towards her feelings and desires

Conscious Parenting: Shefali Tsabary at TEDxSF

I often hear people say that you can only blame your parents for your “issues” as an adult for so long. And that’s fair enough, but what if we could raise a generation of kids that don’t need to blame anyone for anything? Conscious parenting isn’t some abstract concept.

I’m Black, He’s White. Who Cares? I Do, Actually. | Jezebel

I told my boyfriend of my worries about my children, biracial or otherwise—this tearful outburst came after I made him watch an episode of GIRLS, no less—and, after he told me that I was jumping an artillery of guns, we had an open discussion where we both shared our racially-based worries about the relationship (among his: “I worry that people in the street will say something mean to you, especially when we pass older white couples.”) About halfway through the conversation, I realized: I can’t be angry with him for not knowing something he was never taught. My thoughts about my children were always tinged with a fear that my white husband— if that’s who I marry— just won’t get it. I have a running list of “Things Your Black Girlfriend Should’ve Taught You About” as a half-joke, half culture class on my desktop (cocoa butter, baked macaroni and cheese, the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, casual racism). But the “black experience” can’t be summed up with a chapter of W.E.B. Du Bois and a viewing of “Do the Right Thing.” There’s no class you can take or books you can read or movies to watch. There is only one thing: you must be tolerant and willing to learn. That’s all I can ask from my boyfriend—and, thankfully, that’s what he’s giving me in return.

cool backyard fort / playhouse made from doors

Fort made of used door via Pinterest

No, Chris Lane Is Not Trayvon Martin | Salon

It’s not that difficult to understand so we’ll spell it out: It was not only that a light-skinned Zimmerman killed an unarmed black teenager — but also that police didn’t do anything about it. The killing was horribly tragic, as is Lane’s senseless murder, but if Zimmerman had actually been arrested for the shooting, the sad reality is that far fewer Americans would know his name. But that’s not what happened. Instead, police let Zimmerman go under Florida’s “stand your ground” law. It smacked of institutional, state-sponsored racial favoritism of the worst kind. It was only after public outcry that state prosecutors took over the case and pressed charges. Some could argue that Zimmerman didn’t need to be convicted for justice to be done, but he did need to stand trial.

Guys With Fancy Lady Hair | The Bold Italic

So many men spend years getting their manes all long and for what? To be occasionally bundled into a low ponytail? I’m not sure how ladies got to hoard all of hair’s styling potential when men can grow hair out of their faces. In an attempt to change the way we look at man locks, I took eight guys with long hair to Salon Miel to get fancy lady updos. As you can see, the results were baby’s breath-taking.


On Miley Cyrus And Racism | The Belle Jar

Even worse, in her performance last night Miley used black women as props – like, literal props – and barely anyone said anything. I saw very few people displaying any outrage over the fact that Miley was, at one point, slapping a faceless black woman on the ass as if she was nothing more than a thing for Miley to dominate and humiliate. I saw barely anyone discussing the fact that Miley’s sexual empowerment, or whatever you want to call it, should not come at the cost of degrading black women. I saw a whole lot of people giving Miley a pass for her behavior because she’s young and naive and sheltered.