What I Want You to Know is a series of
reader submissions. It is an attempt to allow people to tell their
personal stories, in the hopes of bringing greater compassion to the
unique issues each of us face. If you would like to submit a story to
this series,
click here. Today’s guest posts is by Jill Flockhart.


people are really curious about my daughters birth mother and I
understand that. What I need you to understand is that I protect her to
protect my daughter. My daughters birth mother is a very important
piece of her history. This piece of history is a precious jewel that I
will carry around for my daughter until she is ready to carry it
herself. When I give my daughter this jewel, it will not be tarnished
by your judgments or opinions.

I want you to know that it
is never okay to disparage her birth mother. It is not okay to
speculate. It is not okay to judge. In our house we speak of her in
hushed and reverent tones. She is not the villain of our story, she
is the hero. The unselfish, unsung hero. If you must know something
about our birth mother, know that she is strong. Stronger, I think,
than most. She is beautiful. I know this because my baby is the most
beautiful child ever. She is brave, she is humble. She is loved.