The Therapist Is In: Conflict Resolution for Toddlers || On Thursdays I post from the vault. This post is from September 2008.

On Thursdays I post from the vault. This post is from September 2008.

My kids are getting to an age where they are both fighting an awful lot. They fight over toys, over sippy cups, over chairs . . . you name it. India is just about to turn 2, and many times the fights are just completely illogical. For example: India was claiming that Jafta’s blue blanket was hers (which she knows to be untrue and yet seems to enjoy the drama). Jafta, in his 3-year-old need for justice, argued just as vehemently that the blanket was, indeed, his own. This repeats itself, with various substitutions of content, all day, every day.

In an effort to quell the nonsensical fighting, I figured that Jafta, being eldest, was the more logical of the two. I decided to try to teach him the concept of “agreeing to disagree”. I spent some intentional time with him talking about the fighting, and explaining that perhaps he could just end the fight by saying “we agree to disagree”. I explained how this meant that he didn’t agree with her, but he wasn’t going to argue. We even practiced it a few times. Jafta kept saying it wrong (we agree to agree), but whatever. He got the concept. I thought.

So here is how the next episode went:

India puts Jafta’s shoes on her feet)

Jafta: India, those are MY shoes!

India: They’re mine! India’s shoes.

Jafta: We agree to agree, India.

India: They’re MINE!


India: They’re MINE!

Jafta: (now screaming) WE AGREE TO AGREE, INDIA!!!

India: They’re MINE!


lather. rinse. repeat.

So, yeah. There you have it. The family therapist explains conflict resolution for you. Bet you can’t wait to try this one at home.

You’re welcome.


Wednesday’s Child: Sterling

Every Wednesday I feature a child recently highlighted by a local Wednesday’s Child newscast to share the stories of children from around the country who are waiting for a family. My hope is that this can broaden exposure for the children highlighted, but also serve as a reminder that these children represent thousands of children currently in the foster-care system. Perhaps their stories will inspire you to consider opening your home to a child needing a family. For more information and to learn about other waiting children, visit AdoptUsKids.




Sarah has her aura read, and the girls have a chat with Barret Ward, founder of FashionABLE, about their radical new reporting system – AccountABLE. Fashion has a dirty secret: the products we enjoy are most often made by women who can’t meet their basic needs. Barrett is trying to change that by publishing the wages of everyone in the chain of making a product, and encouraging other companies to do the same.

Barrett is offering 20% off your first ABLE purchase with the code SELFIE at How cool is that?! The code is valid for a one-time use per customer through December 26, 2018.

In this episode we talked about:

True Cost on Netflix

Enlightened Sea Salt Roasted Fava Beans

Chenille Sitting Ball Chair

The Female Brain

MUN Aman Moisturizer (get 15% off with code WHOORL)

Female Brain Gone Insane: An Emergency Guide For Women Who Feel Like They Are Falling Apart



Life Lately

He wanted sparkly nails. His sister obliged.

Was just gifted this giant coffee table from a friend who thought it was copper. It had turned completely black. But I’ve started cleaning it. And it looks more yellow than copper. Brass? Bronze? Also the patina is black, not green like copper. And lastly, how do I clean it? Getting this much black off took me about an hour with a copper scrub and I’ve got a lot more to go … it’s almost 5’x5’.

Two and a half days in NYC and I managed to pack in two shows, a trip to the high line and Chelsea market, Central Park, @colorfactoryco, meals with dear friends, and some of the best food I’ve had in a long time. Headed home tired but happy.


Rooftop cocktails followed by a late-night search for fries and the very best conversation until almost 3am. Thanks @alphamom ❤️❤️

“Friends don’t date friend’s ex-boyfriends. It’s, like, the rules of feminism.” #meangirlsbroadway

A fun day yesterday speaking on working with brands for @techmunchconf and serving up cotton candy with @bloomlygrows followed by dreamy cocktails and food at @abckitchenand a rickshaw ride to a broadway show. ❤️❤️ #bemorechillmusical


Nerd-level excited to be seeing this before it hits broadway. #bemorechillbroadway


I accidentally ordered the large print version which led me to accidentally realizing that this is probably how I need to be reading books from now on. #thisis40ish


Henna art from the swap meet. @indiahowerton